This is a monthly column on becoming a great human being and has two opinions on the subject from eastern and western parts of the world namely Dr Amit Nagpal from India and Michael Thallium from Spain. If you wish to read more articles on this topic, please visit The Joys of Teaching by Dr Amit Nagpal.
THE INNER JOY MAKES US GREAT
Dr Amit Nagpal’s opinion
Dr Amit Nagpal is a Personal Branding Consultant & Global Success Coach. He is based in New Delhi, India and specializes in personal branding with a holistic touch. His philosophy is, "Enlarge as a Human Being, Excel as a Social Media Being and Evolve into a Personal Brand(ed) Being.
“Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.” quoted a Facebook picture.
I wondered, “Is this not the most difficult thing in the world?” This is the exact opposite of Murphy’s Law and most of us are rather expecting something bad to happen, something to go wrong all the time.
Even I have applied Murphy’s Law in my life. With one thing going wrong after another for many years, I developed an unconscious fear that my happiness is going to be short-lived and something bad will happen soon. To add to our troubles, sometimes we have people in our immediate environment who are panicky, cynical and full of fears. We don’t even realise when and how their fears become a part of our unconscious personality. We are absorbing negative energy from them unconsciously, more so as children.
Frederick Koenig says, “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result to getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” I had translated a beautiful Hindi story “The Money is with you” and explained its relevance to inner joy. The story says that all that we are looking for outside is actually inside us. The Joys is within and the sooner we realise it, the better it is for us and for our inner peace.
Often I come across people who complain that they were not able to meditate for a long time; they failed to silence their mind and so on. My usual answer is, “Meditation is a practice for finding perfect peace for those who have already found peace.” Unless we create an attitudinal shift-adding gratitude, subtracting complaints, dividing challenges (sharing it with a higher power), we cannot multiply our happiness and joy. If we are patient enough to work on attitudinal shift and practice contemplation (meditation) simultaneously, it will be the best of both worlds. Else we should focus on attitudinal shift for few months.
If you are full of grudges or guilt, if you are full of hatred or cynicism, if you are full of blame game or wickedness, if you are full of selfishness and expectations-how can meditation help you find peace? It would be like putting s fire extinguisher on permanent duty with a building which is likely to catch fire anytime. Would it not be better to demolish such building and create a new one?
In my opinion it’s very simple. If we are soul oriented, we will be joyful most of the time and if we are mind-oriented (under mind’s control), we will be stressed most of the time. I had once posted on Facebook, “Those under the control of the mind are taking classes in stress management and those under the control of the soul are giving classes in joy and ecstasy.”
When I read about Louise Hay, I found so many things common in our struggle (though her struggles were much more than mine). She definitely has been one of the strong inspirations to find joy come what may.
Mitesh Khatri says, “The Label you give to Situations & People becomes your Emotional experience of them, so Label wisely what situations & people mean to you.”
Let us try our best to give the label ‘JOY’ whenever and wherever possible and we are all set to uncover our greatness.
THE INNER JOY MAKES US GREAT
Michael Thallium’s opinion
Michael Thallium is a global and greatness coach based in Spain. Michael has spent many years of his life traveling around many countries and continents, sailing the seas, flying the skies all over the world. Since 2008 he is dedicated to his passions namely coaching, language & communication and music.
Writing on the inner joy has been a challenge for me. At the begining I wanted to explain and show what it means, but then I realized that I would become too theoretical if I would do so. Then I decided to find an example and just let it speak on its own. And that’s what I did. I found a great video of Alice Sommer Herz, a 108 year old lady who survived the holocaust and overcame a cancer at age 86. To me that’s a very good example of inner joy. She speaks about optimism, but you can feel her inner joy when she laughs. I believe that when you experience that inner joy, people just want to “stick around”. Everybody loves being around someone who sees the good side of things and feels the inner satisfaction to have done something well. It’s not about denying that bad things exist, but about focusing on the good things to uncover our greatness. No more words, just inner joy. Just watch this!
